Having just pushed the Publish button on that last post, I just got an email about a course for couples…

In The Conscious Relationships Seminar you’ll learn how to:

- Take responsibility for the judgments you tell yourself about your partner. The empowering insight is that it is much less important to try to change someone else than it is to stop the mental whirlwind of your own stories about the other that make you unhappy.

- Recognize that your partner is truly “other.” No one out there is you and expecting them to think or feel or behave as you do is simply narcissism. Instead of being polarized by your differences, you begin to marvel at them and learn to respect the uniqueness of each other. Gradually, no longer fighting against perceived differences you will often find yourselves spontaneously surprised by a deeper love that is unconditional.

- See that our partners are not in our lives to fulfill us or protect us from threatening feelings. A consecrated relationship is one in which we commit ourselves to mature psychologically and spiritually by learning to hold whatever vulnerable or dark feelings are aroused in us through the course of the relationship. Nearly 50% of marriages end in divorce, and while some are because of actual incompatibility, many and maybe most are because the feelings aroused in these relationships are too overwhelming for many people to bear, and the tendency is to blame the other.

- Re-Enliven your Relationship. Love is not something you give or take. It is something that claims you and re-enlivens your relationship when you meet each other fully in the present without defenses. In this sense relationship can become a transcending path whose limits no one knows.

Serendipity or Irony?

The universe is a funny funny place!