One of the most asked question I hear these days is

“How’s married life treating you.”

It’s a multiple-part answer.

• Married Life is awesome!
• it’s not any different from the life that we had before getting married, really, other than that now we are married.
• there is an elusively mysterious feeling of certainty that I have become aware of that I find is inextricably linked to being specifically married to Emma. I like it, but it’s still quite weird – like I have eaten a particularly satisfying relationship cake and now I am laying on a metaphorical couch enjoying the view of the same cake, un-eaten.
• I am now aware of the times i am wearing the ring and when i am not wearing the ring. Meaning that the ring has changed the feeling i have in my hand (finger specifically) to such an extent that I am neither comfortable with it on or off, but I am aware of it’s status almost all the time.
• when Emma does something nice (make dinner, jokes around, looks pretty) I find that it has an intrinsic goodness to it that previously wasn’t available. Conversely, negative actions don’t have this magnification effect, which is interesting and good.
• thinking about the future is less about what i want to do and more about what we will be doing; in a year; two years; ten..?
• I tend to say “my wife” as often as possible, sometimes inventing ways to add it to the conversation.

I checked with my gran to see if these things were all “normal” and, while I didn’t get a straight answer, she seemed very pleased with them all the same. We must be doing something right!