Posts Tagged ‘happy’
Happiness vs. the common cold
For the past three or four years I have noticed that I have been sick a lot. As soon as the first day of winter hits, or someone so much as sneezes within a one hundred meter radius of me I immediately fall sick with a cold or flu and then stay that way until the first hot day of spring. That is until this year.
I haven’t really been avoiding sick people all that much, a girl in my class has been sick for four weeks with the flu and she sneezed on my face (by accident of course, it was grosse then but kind of funny now). Even Ben has been sick lately, but not me!
I don’t know why. I don’t think I have any magical immunity or great secret. Although I do stand by my mums excellent advice of keeping my feet warm all the time. I just think I am too happy at the moment to bother with sickness.
The mind is a wonderful thing and if I can stay happy, and there is nothing stopping that, then I believe I will continue in my non sickness ways. I have so much to be happy about at the moment and I have plenty of warm socks so I am set for the rest of winter!
I heard about this great way to deal with having to make decisions that, for some reason, become impossible to resolve without fisticuffs.
B: “What would you like for dinner?”
E: “I don’t know, anything.”
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It’s 5-3-1 time! Person B has to make 5 suggestions, Person E gets to veto two of them, then Person B vetoes another two. The remaining option is the one you go with.
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B: “Nando’s, Subway, Maya Masala, Sumo-Salad, I.G.A.”
E: “Not I.G.A. and not Nando’s; we went there yesterday.”
B: “Okay. Not Subway. Not Sumo-Salad.”
E: “Maya Masala it is then!”
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It’s great because:
- We both get to veto two items.
- The person who didn’t want to decide, ends up saying the answer (which is like pseudo-deciding)
- The person asking the question has to come up with 5 options to start with (as opposed to none when asking the first question)
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We have successfully trialed this game and found it to be both easy to play and very effective.
I have a friend who is going through some tough times at the moment and, during the course of some email tennis, there are a few paragraphs that I think bare repeating.
Would you change him, so that you could keep him? If you were to forgive what seems unforgivable (and believe me, it is forgivable, but maybe not just yet) and continue from roughly where you left off, what would you have to change, in your deeply held beliefs about relationships, so that you could REALLY be back in the relationship?
A lot huh?
About the same amount of things you’ll have to change to have your next serious relationship with whomever comes along.
Coupled with…
Know that when you are in a relationship, you choose to be in it and there will always be unexpected stuff coming at you. It is the nature of a relationship between two (or more) people that things will not go “as planned” and so, as you get more experienced with being in relationships, you stop making plans and stick to a generally agreed upon “basic outline” that can be reviewed at any time all members are together.
It has taken me, personally, ~15 years to figure this out and, while I think I’ve got it mostly worked out, I know that I could also have it completely wrong. While I am not exactly “fine” with that, I am okay with the idea that it doesn’t matter so much, as long as I am willing to throw out my old ideas and learn something new when the situation requires it.
I don’t really have much to add, outside of the context of the situation, other than: Relationships are curious things, the more I have the more I realise how much more there is to learn about them.
Okay so I booked the tickets to Paris three days ago now but I still don’t think it has sunk in. I mean…Paris! I am so excited. I have been wanting to go back to Paris since the first time I visited there which was back in 2002. I honestly never thought I would be able to afford it. You know how we have these little ideas about things we would like to see and do, but deep down inside we know that it is only an idea and probably will never come to fruition? That was how I felt about Paris and going to Europe in general, hence why it has taken me a couple of days for it to sink it.
It is amazing also how one trip is inspiring me to do so much. The last few days it has been easier for me to get out of bed. Every day I ride my bike to school and catch the train instead of driving is another five dollars saved for the trip. Every time I cook dinner instead of having take away food is another ten dollars saved for the trip. I have even started learning French again. I have to learn French as part of me getting into WAAPA next year but I was having trouble getting the motivation to start, now I am finding that I am enjoying it immensely. Ben is right, whenever I find myself cracking the shits all I need to do is think about the trip and I am smiling again.
WOW! I just realised I never posted about getting into WAAPA next year. I got into Classical Voice studies for singing. I can’t wait to start and am really looking forward to finally giving my voice some time to develop.
Next year is looking amazing! New school, travel plans, singing, working…I can’t wait!
Image by trixnbooze (Flickr)
The last few weeks Ben and I have been pushing ourselves a little too hard. Currently I am performing in a production of “Fiddler on the Roof”, while also choreographing the musical “Nine”. Ben has been coming along to “Nine” rehearsals to help out and this has often resulted in him helping out on nights when I am not there too. What this has added up to is two very tired people.
It is production week this week for both shows, they both had their preview tonight and they both open on Friday. As you can imagine there have been a lot of last minute rehearsals happening in a desperate attempt to get things ‘perfect’. This week alone we have been to one rehearsal or the other (or in the case of Sunday both) every day. It has gotten to the point now though when we need to stop. The exhaustion has set in. It is time for a break.
I think the worse thing in all this is that Ben and I don’t seem to be spending as much time together as we usually do. We have also taken to sleeping in separate beds because we seem to get better sleep when there isn’t another body in the bed, and with sleep eluding us we will take what we can get. It isn’t ideal but it works.
I miss waking up and having our slow sleepy mornings together, sharing breakfast together and talking about the day.
I miss coming home at night and spending time unwinding, listening to music, going to the movies or watching a video.
Most of all I miss Ben. We don’t haven’t seen each other much the last two weeks. Hopefully once the shows open we can get back to being awesome together. Because we are pretty damn awesome.
