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Weekly Review (Week 10)
Two and a half months pregnant! That’s just awesome. We aren’t counting by weeks any more, it’s months.
Most of this week was spent in logistics: The logistics of Emma moving in with Ben. Wardrobes have been measured, looked at, costed, changed, purchased and , finally, constructed. All hail the mights IKEA juggernaught. So there is a huge 2360 x 2000 x 580 megolith in what used to be the weird little corner of my bedroom.
I like it!
I also did a lot of looking around the internet for completely useless bits on information while tricking myself into thinking that this was perfectly legitimate research into important questions. And that’s not including the Yerba Maté post, either!
It’s been a bit of a long week, we both had head colds on Monday that lasted most of the week. Despite that wonderful excuse to do nothing but lay in bed, snuffling our way through boxes of tissues, we got a few important milestones out of the way.
I think we are getting more of a handle on the baby thing and what that is likely to involve for us both. We are also spending more time uncovering our own expectations and then talking about them. One of the best things to come out of the week is the way we have improved communication between us. It’s not perfect, we haven’t become a single cohesive unit fused up one side, but we HAVE made big inroads into understanding each other and that’s going to be such a vital skill when the baby arrives.
We’ve also begun to ask more questions of other people too, to find out what they did, or didn’t, do when they were having a baby. It’s amazing, to me, that so many different answer exist for the simplest of questions. I really thought that the You’re Having A Baby instructions would all be the same after such a long time. How wrong I was. It seems that the only universal rules are:
- Don’t drink
- Don’t smoke
- Don’t eat pre-prepared food
- Take 500mg Folic Acid a day
That hardly seems like a failsafe instruction manual to me, but I’m starting to see that being pregnant is a very personal and unique experience. Doesn’t seem to stop anyone from passing on their sage advice though. It’s quite funny; listening to the stories and wondering how much of it was because of the baby and how much because of the parents.
This week we started spreading the news to our family and close friends. Just about everyone seems to be thrilled, which is encouraging and kind of surprising. We really thought there would be some not so pleasant responses and were full of trepidation before each person was brought in to the fold.
And the real planning has begun, too.
- We’d like to go to Osborne Park Hospital.
- Visit GPs this coming week to find a nice one.
- T-Rex (baby’s nickname) will get the spare room.
- Going to put a big wardrobe in the bedroom.
- Downstairs will become a spare bedroom/doghouse/couch surfing.
- Stay at my place for at least 6 months after the birth.
I think that it’s also worth mentioning that we have had a few are we doing the right thing? thoughts. I expect that it’s normal for this to happen, but it’s interesting that it’s happening now and not when we first found out. We are spending more time working out the logistics of having a baby now though, rather than the idealistic idea that the perfect child will descend to us from on high.
Parents eh? Bunch of dreamers I reckon!
This week has been a time of rest, really. We’ve passed beyond the crazy Oh My God phase and are settling in to the What Do We Do Now one. We have also made a really important decision; We’re going to do what makes us feel good. Not as a priority, but as a method of choosing which option to go for when presented with two or more of them.
The most important thing that we did this week was to tell our parents what’s going on. I’ll write another post about the various reactions (I secretly recorded them, because I’m that kind of guy) later, but at the end of the day (literally) we are both feeling much better about what’s going on. The dirty little secret is no longer a secret and therefore not dirty either.
A very nice result.
